Mai 11, 2010 at 04:48 o\clock

A Reason, Season and Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. Sometimes they die. What we must realize is that our need has been met. Our desire fulfilled, their work is done. Your need has been answered, and now it is time to move on.When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it. It is real. But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

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Mai 10, 2010 at 04:42 o\clock

Finding a Marriage Partner

 All humans are born into families — and families begin with the joining together of a man and a woman in marriage. All societies have their own form of marriage. The ideas that we have about marriage are part of our cultural background; they are part of our basic beliefs about right and wrong. As we study marriage, we find that different cultures have solved the problem of finding a spouse in different ways.         In traditional Chinese culture, parents made marriage decisions for their children.Parents who wanted to find a spouse for their son or daughter asked a marriage counselor to find someone with the right qualities, including age and educational background.Older family members, who understood that the goal of marriage was to produce healthy sons, made the all-important decision of marriage. In traditional Chinese society, sons were important because they would take positions as head of the family and keep the family name alive.As part of our cultural background, beliefs about marriage can be as different as the cultures of the world. The Hopi, a native people of North America, used to have a very different idea about freedom. The Hopi allowed boys to leave their parents' home at age <B thirteen to live in a kiva, a special home for young males. Here they enjoyed the freedom to go out alone at night and secretly visit young girls. Most boys tried to leave the girl's home before dawn, but a girl's parents usually did not get angry about the night visits. They allowed the visits to continue if they thought the boy was someone who would make a good marriage partner. After a few months of receiving visits, most girls were expecting a baby. At this time they could choose their favorite boy for a husband.'. The Hopi culture is not the only one that allowed young people to visit each other at night. Some Bavarian people of southern Germany once had a "windowing" custom that took place when young women left their windows open at night so that young men could enter their bedrooms. When a woman was expecting, the man usually asked her to marry him. But women who were not with child after windowing were often unable to find a husband. This Was because ability to bear children was a very important requirement for women in this culture, and the windowing custom allowed them to prove their ability to others in the community. Some people are surprised when they learn of this old custom because they think people of southern Germany followed Catholic religion beliefs, which teach marriage is a holy right given by God in order to create children. But the windowing custom is only one example, of the surprising views of marriage that have existed around the world. 5 One view of marriage that surprises most of us today was held by John Noyes, a religious man who started the Oneida Community in the state of New York in 1831. Noyes decided that group marriage was the best way for men and women to live together. In this form of marriage, men and women changed partners frequently. They were expected to love all members of the community equally. Children belonged to all members of the community, and all the adults worked hard to support themselves and shared everything they had. Members of the Oneida ;

Community lived together for a while without any serious problems; however, this way of life ended when John Noyes left in 1876. Without his leadership and special way of thinking, members of the community quickly returned to the traditional marriage of one woman and one man.      ,

A more famous example of a different style of marriage is found among the Mormons.

The group's first leader, Joseph Smith, believed that a man should be allowed to have several wives. As the Mormon church grew, many of the men followed Smith's teaching and married O a number of wives. The Mormons believe that it is a woman's duty to marry at a young age and raise as many children as possible. For example, in 1854, one Mormon leader became a father nine times in one week when nine of his wives all had babies. Today the Mormon church teaches that marriage should involve one man and one woman as partners who will be together not only during this life but also forever.      

Today some men agree with the old custom of having as many wives as desired. Some young lovers today dream of the former freedom of the Hopi, and some wish that a marriage counselor would help them find the perfect mate. Finding a spouse with whom we can spend a lifetime has always been an important concern. Despite all these unusual traditional ways of finding a marriage partner, one idea is the same throughout the world: Marriage is a basic 'CS and important part of human life.

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Mai 8, 2010 at 04:40 o\clock

Laowai and Chinese Differ on Raising Their Children

The Chinese like children a lot, and I really appreciate that. I was curious how they express their love towards their own children. I guess this is a big cultural difference. Most Chinese children get whatever they want — ice cream, sweets, toys, and endless attention. Is that "love?" Maybe. I believe most Westerners think differently. We think love is to educate your child and teach him to live an independent life. That includes not getting something he or she really wants. As an adult he will not always get the fabulous car he longs for. She will not always get the beautiful dress she longs , for. So we try to teach the children to cope with the frustration of not getting what they want.Here is an example which shows the difference in behaviour in the same situation. In front of the Qinghua kindergarten there is an old woman who sells ice cream. 'Naturally, whenever I pick up my four-year-old son Felix from kindergarten, he wants me to buy an ice cream. I think he can have one for special occasions, but not every day. One day, I picked up my xiaolaowai Felix and we had a fight about that ice cream.He wanted me to buy him an ice cream, I did not agree. He started to scream and cry as if he had been tortured. I told him that I was not going to buy him an ice cream, no matter how much he screamed. A woman heard Felix scream and asked me what the matter was. I told her and she just could not understand my being so incredibly cold and heartless. It resulted in her buying Felix an ice cream, even though I protested vehemently. How do we express our love? How do we educate our children? I believe there is a cultural difference, and I find this is really spoiling the children.On the other hand, I find the life of a Chinese child rather hard. Yes, the child is the adored and spoiled centre of the whole family. But they start to study very hard from a very early age and not always according to their own will. Children of my son's age take piano lessons, painting classes and even English classes. Just playing without learning anything is a waste of time. So in this aspect our children are spoiled, because they are allowed to just play.There are a lot of differences in child-raising. I just hope to make people think a little bit about these issues. Diver from:

Mai 7, 2010 at 05:01 o\clock

The Gloom Classroom

October often looks and feels dreary because school is by then in full swing . Today , a rainy Thursday , is no different . What makes it worse is that I am forced to sit in my writing class on the second floor of our college and write a theme . It is no wonder that a shadow of gloom hangs over the things and the people that surround me in this room.As I look around, I see that the surroundings are old and depressing. There is a broken brown chair beside the teacher' s desk; no one will sit in it for fear of leaning back and toppling over into the floor . There is also a mahogany bookcase with a missing shelf, and all the books are piled on the bottom in a stack of blue and yellowed covers, instead of standing in a straight row . This ugly desk of mine is filled with holes and scratches because other impatient students, no doubt, lost their tempers and took out their anger on the wooden surface . As I rub my hand across it , I feel coldness . Even the gray walls and the rumble of thunder outside reflect the atmosphere of seriousness as we write our first theme of the semester. When some air sails through an open window beside me, there is the annoying smell of coffee grounds from a garbage pail not far off. That smell is a perfect indication of our discomfort !Aside from the unattractive surroundings, the people around me show this mood of tension and displeasure . Mary , a slim blonde at my right, chews the inside of her lower lip. I can see by the way her forehead is wrinkled that she is having quite a bit of trouble . Because only one or two words in blue ink stand upon her clean white page, she looks around the room fearfully for some new ideas. Slouching in his seat in the third row, David Harris nibbles each finger of each hand. Then he plays with a black collar button that stands open on the top of his red plaid shirt. The tension gets to him too; drops of perspiration run slowly down his cheeks. I hear a thump as he uncrosses his legs and his scuffed shoe hits the floor. A painful cough slices the air from behind me. I hear a woman' s heels click from the hall beyond the closed door and a car engine whine annoyingly from Bedford Avenue. All these signs of gloom do not help my mood at all.

These last few painful moments make me wonder if what my friends told me about college was all true. Where are all the beautiful girls I' m supposed to be meeting and talking to in every room? Where are the freedom and relaxed atmosphere my friends bragged about? I' m supposed to be enjoying myself instead of suffering! Everybody seems to have forgotten that college is hard work too. My first days in writing class prove that delight and pleasure often disappear when assignments are due!

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Mai 6, 2010 at 04:33 o\clock

Eating and Reading

We are very familiar with eating and reading, since we eat and read every day. Though eating and reading are quite different from one another in some ways, they are still similar to each other in some other ways.Every one of us experiences eating and reading in much of the time in our life, and yet, not every one of us can consciously experience the similarities between the two that seem to be quite distinct things which have absolutely nothing to do with each other. But as a matter of fact, both eating and reading function similarly in our life for both can provide food for us to keep fit physically and mentally.First of all, both eating and reading are very important for a person in his or her life. Eating offers us basic nutritious foods necessary for our survival, while reading meets our spiritual needs we usually expect to some extent. It is self-evident that we must eat every day. Similarly, we have to read everyday especially in modern times to keep ourselves in-formed and up-to-date on all matters of world affairs and those at home.

Second, we have our likes and dislikes in both eating and reading because of taste. There are various foods to eat and we generally choose our diet as we like. One' s most favorite food might well be nasty for someone else. For instance, many people would find it disgusting to eat rats, but according to one survey, there are forty-two different cultures whose people regard rats as appropriate food. There are also various books to read and we do our reading in much the same way we choose our diet.

 It is true that we like some kinds of books and dislike others just as we have our preferences in eating.

Third, we have to pay much attention to a balanced diet which may have significant effect on our physical health. It is the same that we should make cautious choices in reading which may remarkably influence our psychological well-being. We know that there are some books which are not healthful to our mentality just as those foods harmful to our health .

In short, we can t live without eating or reading in lifetime. They are both part of our life. It lies in a plain truth that without eating, we will die; without reading, we will not be able to keep up with the constant changing world. And what is more, we have to eat properly as well as read properly.

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